tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9226230.post114405278001040428..comments2023-10-20T05:43:46.254-07:00Comments on All Allan: Not Dark YetUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9226230.post-1144329852018348762006-04-06T06:24:00.000-07:002006-04-06T06:24:00.000-07:00You don't need Jesus or Buddha; rather you need to...<I>You don't need Jesus or Buddha; rather you need to move to AZ, buy the corvette, forget about taxes, hang out with your nephew and your kids will follow! <BR/><BR/>Simple answers to big problems. IT IS THAT SIMPLE!<BR/><BR/>JAH</I><BR/><BR/>Ladies and Gentlemen, my nephew, Jason. Looking for his first job as a bona fide attorney, in or around Phoenix, AZ. References upon request.<BR/><BR/>AAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04435140994142833427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9226230.post-1144261159143163042006-04-05T11:19:00.000-07:002006-04-05T11:19:00.000-07:00Allan i have been there and done much of that a ve...Allan i have been there and done much of that a very long time ago--it never goes completely away but it will get better, trust me. I wish you the best--the following helped me and is really good advice---widetrack-----<BR/><BR/>"You are a child of the universe, <BR/>no less than the trees and the stars<BR/>and you have a right to be here. <BR/>And whether or not it is clear to you, <BR/>no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. <BR/>Therefore, be at peace with God, <BR/>whatever you conceive Him to be. <BR/>And whatever your labors and aspirations,<BR/>in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace with your self. <BR/>With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams,<BR/>it is still a beautiful world. <BR/>Be cheerful. Strive to be happy."--------author unknowsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9226230.post-1144198745441240022006-04-04T17:59:00.000-07:002006-04-04T17:59:00.000-07:00Allan, I went through a divorce with 3 children an...Allan, <BR/><BR/>I went through a divorce with 3 children and a subsequent difficult custody battle and all the emotional trauma that is associated with such activities, so I can feel your pain. I went through a period of estrangement with my oldest daughter that was promoted through manipulations by my ex-wife, and all I have to say is that you should constantly evidence your interest and concern about your child by making efforts to contact her and spend time withy her and be involved in her life, and over time these efforts are likely to be recognized by your daughter. <BR/><BR/>All situations are different, but my daughter that had been estranged from me is now 24, and we have a good relationship. Take care, and know that your difficulties will resolve over time. Your anonymous friend.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9226230.post-1144172786577731012006-04-04T10:46:00.000-07:002006-04-04T10:46:00.000-07:00Allan,Not unlike yourself, I'm also a huge fan of ...Allan,<BR/><BR/>Not unlike yourself, I'm also a huge fan of Bob Dylan and am inspired by the power of music when it's wedded with pertinent, poetic and thoughtful lyrics.<BR/><BR/>Through a music review, I recently stumbled across an artist who has been getting the new contender to Dylan's crown hype, only in this singer/songwriters case, he actually seems deserving of it.<BR/><BR/>Without getting into specifics, I've also had a rough time of it lately and the album, "Gone" proved to be incredibly inspiring.<BR/><BR/>Anyway, the artists name is Bill Madden.<BR/><BR/>You can listen to his music at www.billmadden.com<BR/><BR/>Remember... in time, this too shall pass.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9226230.post-1144170822926298372006-04-04T10:13:00.000-07:002006-04-04T10:13:00.000-07:00anon, Thank you for bringing this up since for ...anon,<BR/> Thank you for bringing this up since for me it maintains the integrity of the site. At first i didn't want to detract from the intent of the posting so i ignored the first 'jesus' post but i too felt uncomfortable. Abuot the perceived plugging aspect yes but more importantly about the unhelpfullness - imo - of the comments. ( jona, i can explain if you are interested ).<BR/> I also know that there are others here who post very thoughtful posts are deeply christian and their prayers received equally with the those from the andromeda folks :).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9226230.post-1144166529478095132006-04-04T09:02:00.000-07:002006-04-04T09:02:00.000-07:00The compassion shown to Allan is very endearing, h...The compassion shown to Allan is very endearing, however the pimping of religion makes me uncomfortable. Perhaps Allan is a Buddhist, or a Muslim, or a Jew. Or perhaps Allan is an atheist. Give him your love and compassion, but maybe, just maybe it would be wise to allow him have his own relationship with God.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9226230.post-1144102881339461362006-04-03T15:21:00.000-07:002006-04-03T15:21:00.000-07:00There is nothing I can add to these comments. I j...There is nothing I can add to these comments. I just also want you to know that you and your girls are not alone, and that folks here care for you. I ended a 20 year marriage a few years ago and I have two daughters in their early twenties. Time heals many wounds. I think God wants you to be happy, to be the best you can be for yourself and for others, and that life is too short to suffer in an unhappy situation. And patience and calm lead to much needed healing and understanding. Find happiness, however and wherever you can.<BR/><BR/>HHAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9226230.post-1144098511341193632006-04-03T14:08:00.000-07:002006-04-03T14:08:00.000-07:00Allan,God is with you, your children and your wife...Allan,<BR/><BR/>God is with you, your children and your wife. Peace. the book "The Case for Christ." by Strobel is an excellent read at this moment. <BR/><BR/>just remember, all is not lost.<BR/><BR/>CMAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9226230.post-1144097734988397172006-04-03T13:55:00.000-07:002006-04-03T13:55:00.000-07:00Allan,Please know that I stand with you in dumbstr...Allan,<BR/><BR/>Please know that I stand with you in dumbstruck silent sympathy. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. <BR/><BR/>OK, you know I am seldom silent :-)Transformation is one of my favorite words. All of humanity knows something of it. Nature counts on it. There are some things we cannot keep and there are some things we cannot lose. Seasons come and go. In spite of what's been lost or gained......love remains, or so the song says.<BR/><BR/>You have enough love to sustain you....with enough left over to offer even those who have hurt you the most. Love is a deep well and always our best investment. Invest a big lot of it in yourself :-) During the dark nights of our soul it is all we have. Everything else is stripped away. <BR/><BR/>Love has a way of surprising us with joy when we least expect it. Thanks for sharing your heart with us. Our hearts have such infinite capacity for both joy and pain. <BR/><BR/>RogerAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9226230.post-1144097699763013192006-04-03T13:54:00.000-07:002006-04-03T13:54:00.000-07:00Allan,I hear your tiredness, the weariness of conv...Allan,<BR/>I hear your tiredness, the weariness of conversations where we miss each other; the love we are maybe unable to express; the confusion and guilt about how it all came about and of how to make it better. I hear too the loneliness and the pain of loss of so much potential beauty. It’s not too late.<BR/>If somehow you can communicate with Sarah the pain that you feel around your separation, heartfully, like you just did here, that might be a beginning of something new; no-one can not hear another’s pain even if their own pain is getting in the way. And to listen to her pain until she is really heard breaks the cycle of her having to act out in order to receive the attention that she desperately needs in whatever form. Good luck with that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9226230.post-1144091919826047402006-04-03T12:18:00.000-07:002006-04-03T12:18:00.000-07:00I have a helluva lot of respect for you and your w...I have a helluva lot of respect for you and your willlingness to share your pain with us. As a parent and as a pyschologist, I really feel for you. But life is not a straight line; it cycles just like the market. Right now, you're putting in a bottom, but you'll be a more sensitive and wiser man when you're ready to start your next leg up.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9226230.post-1144088779542780722006-04-03T11:26:00.000-07:002006-04-03T11:26:00.000-07:00Allan, things always look the darkest before the s...Allan, things always look the darkest before the sun comes up. I ended a marraige after 12 years...2 wonderful children. It'll get better my friend. Just do your best to lead courageously, reject passivity, and expect the greater good...God's goodness, to come about for you and your kids. <BR/><BR/>If you don't know or believe the truth and supernatural power of healing and reconciliation available through the Lord Jesus Christ, I invite you, as a follower of His, to take a hard look. As a former skeptic, I was blown away by what I found. <BR/><BR/>Being an attorney, you might really enjoy reading Lee Strobel's book, "The Case for Christ." Strobel, a Yale Law School graduate, was the former legal editor for the Chicago Tribune. This book is a great read that traces his journey from atheist to believer. I take great comfort knowing that when Jesus was asked what was the greatest commandment, the bible records his answer was, "Love the Lord your God with all you heart, soul, strength and MIND." In my case, I'm a follower of Christ because I can't reject Him( or the Bible) intellectually. Strobel's book does a wonderful job laying out that case as far as I'm concerned. You're in my prayers friend.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9226230.post-1144068156001820292006-04-03T05:42:00.000-07:002006-04-03T05:42:00.000-07:00Allan,Your pain and anguish are obvious, palpable;...Allan,<BR/><BR/>Your pain and anguish are obvious, palpable; you do not wear lightly or often your heart on your sleeve.<BR/><BR/>You could choose to view this unscheduled layover as life conspiring <I>against</I> you, especially with everything else going on in your (and Ilene's!) life. You could also choose to view it as life granting you a quiet moment, a separate peace, to reflect quietly upon the decisions that have brought you to this space and time. <BR/><BR/>Choose the latter. Recognize that, despite her current travails, you have raised Sarah to have a discerning mind, to be independent -- which sadly includes the ephemeral renting of the fabric of the love that binds each of you, including Sarah to her mother.<BR/><BR/>This difficult moment will prove only temporary; not a "phase" to grow out of, but a growing older, wiser, being seasoned by the forces of life itself, even at her tender age. It is better it occurs now, with you, as you can offer your patient, always-there, and unconditional love.<BR/><BR/>For you are experienced. She is not. She (both your daughters) looks to you for guidance, in all your decisions -- good and bad, right and wrong. And your ability to stand tall -- firm in your decisions, firm in your resolve.<BR/><BR/>This moment is a character builder for all parties. Love will carry you through, but even love proves insufficient to the task. An old Chinese proverb: <I>"Have patience. Everything is difficult before it becomes easy."</I> That would include love between a father and his daughter(s), and even life itself.<BR/><BR/>Each of you will make it through to the other side. Of that, I am confident. So have faith. And be patient.David M Gordonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02283826951215292341noreply@blogger.com